I know I’m not the only one who complains. We all do at some point. And that’s okay. But do you ever find yourself starting to exhibit the behavour you condemn?*
Sure, sure… it starts out with something maybe simple. Maybe pretty innocent? Other people at your workplace don’t put their dishes in the dishwasher – now neither do you. That sort of thing.
This, of course, can be easily translated to in-game situations. Someone rolled “need” on offset gear that was main spec gear for you, but they won. So you find yourself hovering over the “need” button when your own offset gear drops. Or you have a couple of your buddies roll on an item to give you a better chance at it. Or you steal ore when someone’s dealing with a mob. (As embarassing as it is to say, I’m guilty of that last one. I’m also happy to say I’ve stopped.)
I know not EVERYONE does this… but I see many people contradict themselves or act in the very manner they once complained about. What compells us to do this? Is it the underlying greedy nature of humans? Or are we just trying to avoid getting shafted? Or are we just trying to help get gear for a friend/guildmate? And why is it only in certain situations? No one tries to out-lazy their co-worker. Why is this? I really don’t know. But I will tell you this; participating in this behavour only perpetuates the problem.
So I ask you to hold yourself to a higher standard.
When I was in the military, every time I put on my uniform I would hold myself to a higher standard. It was both an honour and a privaledge to be a soldier and I wouldn’t dare taint that image. We also hold police officers to higher standards – when they falter, our criticism of them is much higher. We hold politicians, doctors, engineers, and lawyers to higher standards – if they screw up, someone’s life could be ruined forever.
So be better than those we complain about.
Don’t worry – I get it. Do I ever get it! Unfortunately, I know I’m not the only one who gets the urge to “do unto others before they do unto me”. But that doesn’t make it right.
Me, I’m trying to stop. I’m trying to lead by example. Where negative actions will encourage more negativity, I’m trying to ensure that my positive actions will, at the very least, discourage someone else from acting negatively. I’m trying to be a better internet dragon person.
- If you see an offset item drop – ask if anyone minds if you roll on it before hitting “need”.
- The next time you see someone killing a mob before going for a mining node, leave them alone. If it’s in Wintergrasp, let them get their node and then wave before you melt their face. 🙂
- Help run a buddy through an instance as many times as necessary for a drop, but don’t stack the odds by rolling on things he/she needs (and you don’t) just to trade it to them later.
- Don’t be the DPS who gets impatient and constantly shouts, “gogogogo”.
- If you have a tank with less health than you as DPS or heals, be extra cautious with AoE and targeting – they could still be learning. (Yes, sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between a new tank and a bad tank.)
- If you see someone with an awful spec, offer them some tips – there are still plenty of people who don’t know what resources are out there.
No, not everyone will show you the same courtesy. Not everyone will meet your standards of decency. You’re welcome to call them out on being a jerkface. But don’t ever let yourself become that person. In Azeroth or the real world.
Hold yourself to a higher standard.
* – I originally had “condone”, which as BBB pointed out in the comments, is grammatically incorrect. D’oh! 😛